In her activity book, Emotional Intelligence, author Adele Lynn identifies six negative listening habits. As you read through them, you might be tempted to say, "That accurately describes _____ (insert a name)." Instead, explore which habit and definition might best describe you. After reading them multiple times, I found myself saying, "Yikes, I do that one." Recognizing which habit I demonstrate allows me to proactively create a strategic plan to become an active listener. After all, who like being around somebody that doesn't listen well or not at all?
- Rebuttal Maker - listening long enough to give a rebuttal
- Advice Giver - listening long enough to give unsolicited advice
- Interrupter - more anxious to speak words than to listen
- Logical Listener - not asking about underlying emotions attached to a message
- Happy Hooker - using the speaker's words only to get to his own message
- Faker - pretending to listen